Difficult to do because I want him to be the father he should be and not the asshole that he is. I guess that's difficult for me to let go of. He raised me with drugs and alcohol along with mental/emotional and some physical abuse. Still dealing with that to this day. I sometimes sense some curiosity in him but I think his ego is to huge and fragile to assimilate evidence that would shake his world view.
He just ends up saying I'm fucked up and that he doesn't give a shit anymore. If things happen the way many of us believe it will, his system will be shocked beyond the breaking point. Mother and sister are full on socialists that see Newsom as a rock star. I no longer speak their language.
Imagine how many people have been in your shoes before. Struggling to mend parental relationships is probably one of the most fundamental issues we deal with. I did it with my parents until they died and never gained one inch. Some people are never going to change and you waste your own energy and mental stability fighting a battle that will never be won. You will be happier if you can walk away from it. I doubt you will heed this advice but I give it anyway hoping you will learn sooner than I did.
They're both in their mid 70s and I doubt they will ever budge mentally. I only hope they live long enough to see the changes take effect in this country. Some very good things are coming and I want them to see it before it's curtains for them.
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