Look up states that don't do cross border alimony for the state you are in, i.e. California can't get you in Arkansas. There is also a lesson in that about moving large assets to a trust BEFORE you put a ring on it, preferably before you even meet them.

I feel his pain. I’m going through a very similar thing, except my wife is mentally ill and has a serious rage problem, most likely due to some kind of postpartum depression from the child we had last year. She has moments of lucidity where she’ll apologize once in a while, but every week it seems like she gets more violent and outrageous. The minds of women have been completely ruined. I blame it on Instagram but I know it’s more complicated than that, but it was intentional nonetheless.