Yes, you did miss the point. Rest assured, sometimes it's better that way.
I watched it for the first time and the Tony Soprano character is a jumble of all the worst aspects of human nature, albeit he'll tear up at the thought of his failure of a son who happens to have a vicious streak.
I think the show is merely okay, it has some ridiculous moments and is basically a middle finger to the Italian American community.
I always wondered if David Chase went out of his way to piss on the Italians on purpose.
You must have missed the point because you made zero mention of Tony not having the makings of a varsity athlete.
My big ah-ha moment watching the Sopranos was realizing that the shrink, Dr. Jennifer Melfi, was Henry Hill's wife from Goodfellas. In witness protection?