I'm a new mother that had a baby about 7 months ago. I'm living with two supportive roommates and a loving husband. Even with help I feel like I struggle to raise even one child. It's hard getting enough sleep even as a stay at home mom.
It did make me ponder if SIDS is a scapegoat for well meaning parents or mother's with postpartum depression. It also made me wonder about vaccines. We didn't get the baby any vaccines. He's a non patented baby, he's never gotten sick and he's huuuuge!
I am tired and scrolling through poal and saw your comment so I thought I'd drop a comment since it's something I thought about in passing too.
There's a fair bit of evidence that a good chunk of SIDS deaths are from infants sleeping in the same bed as the mother, particularly for mothers who're obese/drugs/etc.
It's strikingly uncommon for healthy weight mothers who dont cosleep, likely because it's "Hey hubby, can you keep an eye on our baby while I nap" instead of a single mom faceplanting into bed in a donut, booze, and work-exhauation induced haze followed by rolling over and suffocating the poor baby.
There's really no increase in SIDS risk for infants who bedshare with mom under the right circumstances. Exclusively breast fed- no bottle- normal weight mom and baby, no substances used, firm mattress, common sense. Most bed sharing deaths are infants bed sharing with siblings or on a chair or couch instead of a bed or with a mother under the influence
Oh, babies are damned stressful and lack of sleep makes one insane. ALL parents know sleep is the first casualty of being a parent but it gets better. The upside is before you know it they are grown up and you'll miss all that stuff.
I thought a career, an apprentice to be a pipefitter, would prepare me for the physical toll of carrying the baby and mental toll of not sleeping but it turned out i was very wrong
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