Its like asking women if they were ever sexually harassed. If you talk about it constantly you plant a seed that it is ubiquitous. You start to reward accusations of harrassment with high praise of bravery and victimhood and voila, you’ve created a victim of sexual harassment.
Im not saying it’s not possible to influence sexual orientation by molesting kids but I dont think its just as simple as everyone makes out around here i.e. They reproduce through molestation. Some of these people are neurologically abnormal and they are sexual abnormal beyond just wanting to be identified as the opposite sex or wanting to sleep with the same sex. They are in to bdsm, they have high rates of pedophilia, they are polyamorous or just slutty. If there is something wrong with the part of their brain that controls sex, maybe we should take their assertions of being molested with a bit of skepticism. I mean alot of fags probably fantasize about that sort of shit. Its not reliable.
I do remember reading that a high percentage of victims of molestation from the boy scouts and catholic church went on to be gay. That is strong evidence that sexuality is shaped, not innate.
Honestly you guys sound like the lefties saying black crime is society’s fault or something. It is totally down to the brain they were born with. Some people are going to be highly predisposed to this behavior. Others are going to be only moderated predisposed. So perhaps these people look like the “converted” but really we will find that they were more susceptible to this behavior from birth and tipped over the threshold by too much soy and pride parades.
There is no evidence that you are born with a sexuality. There is evidence that sexuality is formed. Calling me a lefty doesn't change that.
Well my relationship is on the rocks because my girlfriend may be lesbian. And yes, she was molested when she was younger. Going through a lot but I can still comment that I feel that childhood trauma highly affects this.
Claiming you are a lesbian or bi (or citing sexual abuse) is a good way to distance yourself from a relationship— a way to de-escalate the seriousness of the relationship. That way a person has a plausible excuse for why they shouldn’t meet the other’s expectations for marriage etc.
oh I have to figure myself out, can’t commit, reasons for why I don’t love you fully and freely, not my fault.
As a former girl, I can attest to the fact that we find reasons to dwell neurotically on such traumas. I don’t know why. Estrogen. It doesn’t help that we live in a culture that rewards this victimhood mentality. Its very seductive. I think as women, most of us eventually grow out of this mentality to some extent.
But if she really loves you, she shouldn’t be focused on whether she is somewhat attracted to the odd girl. I think this is more likely to be the thinking of someone looking for reasons not to commit maybe because they think life is some sexual odyssey which is a common belief among young people. Or maybe she is deeply uncomfortable with sex.
Decide what your expectations are for the relationship and how much of this questioning stuff you are willing to put up with. It is your biological imperative to reproduce. It is possible to be too understanding and patient.
~signed nosey old lady offering unsolicited personal advice
No, not really. She's been to therapy half her life for it. And fwiw we've had threesomes with girls so no, it's not lies being made up for a "bad" relationship. This whole thread is on the topic of childhood trauma and its effects on later sexuality and conditions, not on relationship advice.
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