Claiming you are a lesbian or bi (or citing sexual abuse) is a good way to distance yourself from a relationship— a way to de-escalate the seriousness of the relationship. That way a person has a plausible excuse for why they shouldn’t meet the other’s expectations for marriage etc.
oh I have to figure myself out, can’t commit, reasons for why I don’t love you fully and freely, not my fault.
As a former girl, I can attest to the fact that we find reasons to dwell neurotically on such traumas. I don’t know why. Estrogen. It doesn’t help that we live in a culture that rewards this victimhood mentality. Its very seductive. I think as women, most of us eventually grow out of this mentality to some extent.
But if she really loves you, she shouldn’t be focused on whether she is somewhat attracted to the odd girl. I think this is more likely to be the thinking of someone looking for reasons not to commit maybe because they think life is some sexual odyssey which is a common belief among young people. Or maybe she is deeply uncomfortable with sex.
Decide what your expectations are for the relationship and how much of this questioning stuff you are willing to put up with. It is your biological imperative to reproduce. It is possible to be too understanding and patient.
~signed nosey old lady offering unsolicited personal advice
No, not really. She's been to therapy half her life for it. And fwiw we've had threesomes with girls so no, it's not lies being made up for a "bad" relationship. This whole thread is on the topic of childhood trauma and its effects on later sexuality and conditions, not on relationship advice.
Yeah I get it, you dont want the lecture.
But my generation was psy opped and it took me nearly 20 years to recognize it. You are being psy-opped too. Its hard to see when you are young.
I did therapy for years. You know what I decided? Its fake. Its not science at all. Its not medical intervention. It doesn’t fix anybody that wasn’t going to fix themselves anyway. Its a made up religion with just enough scientific terms thrown in to make it seem credible.
Having 3-somes is not normal. No one was doing that 20 years ago. They just pushed that shit on millenials through porn and then monkey-see, monkey-do.
You don’t need to jump through jewish hoops. You can say no.
Man I guess the Roman and Greek sexual debauchery was an invention of 20 years ago LOL. I mean if you're going to make credible points at least know basic history. Therapy works for people with repressed memories. I guess that's that's hocus pocus too though. Despite your attempts at derailing, the original premise of this thread is insanely true. Childhood trauma imprints itself on you in the form of later manifestation of issues. Sorry you think the Earth was born 20 years ago.
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