Those things aren't mutually exclusive. What he's saying is "men don't want some dumb slut they want someone who they can be honest with, connect with, and if they have a vulnerable moment won't be viewed differently or degraded for it by them". A partner. Not an accessory.

Seriously. Have your wife hold you like a child? This is the mentality of the man-children who have plagued our country. Women are there to tend to our wounds and battle scars, whether physical or emotional, so that we can achieve greater success. That is the only capacity acceptable. Not fulfill some dysfunctional mommy-issue you never got the fuck over in childhood. Men raised by single mothers face these problems because their mother intentionally breaks their kneecaps to keep the child dependent on them, and these same men try to replace their mother with a girlfriend or a wife. I am not kidding, it's literally the psychology (youtu.be)

Everyone should watch this video to properly understand what is happening in our society and how to combat it.