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So my church and I seem to be running into a mild issue. I don' know, maybe i'm over thinking this one. My wife died a few years ago, understandable my brain is all over the place currently. But it seems like the church i go to is already talking about me getting remarried, etc. I decided to get a replica ring because my old one was damaged and thought why not? But the church seems to not have been a fan, because most people did not appreciate me putting on a wedding ring as a widower, it was met with either silence, or complete apathy. And mentioning her is also weird, as if im never supposed to talk about her or something. But i still love my wife, even if she isn't here physically. So now my brain is completely confused by what im supposed to do. I tried suppression but it feels like that made things worst, but being honest with my feelings is also not working.

So my church and I seem to be running into a mild issue. I don' know, maybe i'm over thinking this one. My wife died a few years ago, understandable my brain is all over the place currently. But it seems like the church i go to is already talking about me getting remarried, etc. I decided to get a replica ring because my old one was damaged and thought why not? But the church seems to not have been a fan, because most people did not appreciate me putting on a wedding ring as a widower, it was met with either silence, or complete apathy. And mentioning her is also weird, as if im never supposed to talk about her or something. But i still love my wife, even if she isn't here physically. So now my brain is completely confused by what im supposed to do. I tried suppression but it feels like that made things worst, but being honest with my feelings is also not working.

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Grieving is a process you have to deal with on your own terms. I have found silent retreats helpful, because every issue has a significant spiritual component.

Maybe if you have a monastery nearby which hosts silent or even guided retreats (a guided retreat is where you meet with a monk once a day to discuss your spiritual progress during the retreat... so you're not going to be talking about your feelings), it might be something to try out. And no, most monasteries do not require one to be a part of that spiritual tradition in order to go on retreat.