The relationship of whites to other races, if they were to be personified, is that of an abuse victim and their abusers, sometimes acting alone, sometimes as a conspiracy. I see this as the best means of explaining how I see the struggle of white people to those who are new to white rights advocacy, and a lot more needs to be done with it. There is no such thing as a selfless act, everything that any living being can possibly decide to do is motivated by some selfish or self-serving desire, some expected payoff, a truly selfless act is one that requires someone to do something they gain absolutely nothing from, material or otherwise, such as a psychological reward, or the benefit of receiving the lesser of the feared outcomes from one's actions. There is no such thing as unconditional love, all love must have conditions, even if it is the condition of a mother that their son be themselves, and not someone else, there is also no meaningful distinction between an unconditional love the is universal, and apathy; one answer to the problem of evil is that an omnipotent, omnipresent and omnibenevolent god cannot interfere in creation due to his equally boundless love of everything keeping him from favoring any part of his creation over another with his actions, even momentarily. All interactions are transactional in some way, and the go-to approach to getting someone to accept a bad deal (such as getting a white person to be willing to give more power to a black person, who they care nothing for if not outright hate, and therefore gain nothing from "helping" them in this way), is to try and hide the poor returns of the deal, and focus instead on a transformative view of it, a sort of religious transcendent effect that can come with accepting a raw deal that can only hurt the poor soul scammed into it. They say things like how "doing what I say is good, not doing it is evil", or some moralizing shit like that, they go out of the realm of practicality and into the zone of ideals and principles which are evidently false, because if it were otherwise, then there'd be some quantifiable and tangible thing they could appeal to rather than talking about the way things "should be" (according to them). Study the patterns of abusers and cults, and you will see the exact things I'm talking about, it's all about manipulating people into not being selfish, and not asking what's in it for them, because then they can be coerced into accepting a bad deal, to escape abuse and to escape a cult is to ask what is in it for yourself, it is to cut yourself off from a transformative worldview of making things as they should be, and instead asking for some personal benefit to justify your investment.