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She's very confusing at times, and it makes no sense. It's gotten so cryptic at times, ive decided to wait it out and see how she reacts next month. Sometimes she's very adamant she wants to get married, and then other times she says she wants to wait a year. Yet other times she wants to get married today, and then other times she feels like she doubts whether she wants to get married as a concept vs not getting married. I've had a lot of conflicting answers where at this point, i have no clue what im supposed to make out of it.

I know that a lot of the issues is because her parents and siblings feed her mind poison which causes a lot of conflicting views to be presented at the same time, but at the same time, this woman cant live off only what her parents say. She's even mentioned as such that she hates it, but now it's still very confusing. I don't want to ask the parents during the December season since the holidays are coming up, so i was thinking asking towards January or February instead

She's very confusing at times, and it makes no sense. It's gotten so cryptic at times, ive decided to wait it out and see how she reacts next month. Sometimes she's very adamant she wants to get married, and then other times she says she wants to wait a year. Yet other times she wants to get married today, and then other times she feels like she doubts whether she wants to get married as a concept vs not getting married. I've had a lot of conflicting answers where at this point, i have no clue what im supposed to make out of it. I know that a lot of the issues is because her parents and siblings feed her mind poison which causes a lot of conflicting views to be presented at the same time, but at the same time, this woman cant live off only what her parents say. She's even mentioned as such that she hates it, but now it's still very confusing. I don't want to ask the parents during the December season since the holidays are coming up, so i was thinking asking towards January or February instead

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Let her know it's not up to her when or who you marry, and you'll let her know what your decision is when the time comes. Meanwhile, you need to decide.

If you ask me, marriage is completely devalued in this society, and not even worth the potential/inevitable divorce-rape most of the time.

[–] [deleted] • 1 pt

True to a large extent, I've always seen a Biblical marriage or Christian marriage to be divorced from the state, hence i always get confused why Christians care so much about the legality aspect of a state that clearly hates them. In this case she wants to wait until marriage, which in and of itself makes no sense since she isn't a virgin anymore. Part of this is fueled by a very deep rooted shame complex caused by her family that has made any sense of self worth or decision making into a crime, hence any time she feels attracted to someone she feels guilty for having those feelings in the first place. She was explaining her dating life, and i felt saddened because some of the guys she dated sound like better people than me

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Are you talking about Yentl?

[–] [deleted] • 1 pt

whats that?