Binary reasoning shows two meanings for “seeking help”. Demoralized/demoralizing behavior presents one meaning for argument’s sake. “Find somebody to tell you what to do, then comply with their demands”. In this particular case as well as most, it’s meant as a purposeful derogatory insult. Occasionally tho, it is offered in a pathetically naive yet well meaning sort of way, yet it still results in insult. The other meaning is truly sage advice, fully understood by successful people of any and all measures. Whether the aim of the OP is the creation of an echo chamber, or a society prepared to withstand the trials of a historically epic fourth turning (or both), he would be wise to take your unintended advice.