My 2 cents..... every ethical blue collar millionaire I know was spanked as a child... It taught them boundaries and gave them consequences that were severe enough that they learned the lessons they needed to learn... Nobody would say a child who burns his hand by touching a stove and learns to not touch a stove didn't learn a worthwhile lesson. That having been said.. I was spanked but never in anger... I was told this will teach you to follow the rules and if it doesn't next time I will spank you harder... Once I was told that "somewhere between this belt whipping and death you will learn to not throw snowballs at the school bus.. it all up to you" It worked. I loved my father until his last breath. The best example I can think of is that spanking taught me to be a leader and stop bullies from picking on the fat kids... I remember saying "wanna pick on someone your own size.... leave him alone" I never fought in anger but took the lead and put a few bullies in place with physical threats... just like nature... Spanking is a good tool for a responsible parent and a bad tool for a single black mom who is pissed that her kid spilled her malt liquor.