I'm killing you? You're killing me by the paragraph. I skimmed through it though. Next time someone hits you with that first half of the question, just say, "yea, that's pretty much it, 'quality time' isn't something you can really plan out, it just happens in those rare moments, the challenge is really just being available when those moments develop to play a part." Do you disagree that the term exclusively became popularized as a form of pop-culture rationalization by people in our society who were assisting with or advocating kicking fathers out of the home as the numbers of divorces began to rise or do you know if the term was already in common use before the divorce boom.