Hah, I've had that 'button undone' BS as well, that site had a lot of ex military and I think they missed using authority for the sake of it.
I've had the same experience with female management too, it's like they've had to try so hard to get there they became a bit highly strung and insecure? And they are just pointless in the role really, men do not like working for women, they like working with other men because men are predictable. As far as I can tell women don't like working for women either.
In this case I really do believe the CEO was a true psychotic so I'm not using the term lightly.
A true psychotic doesn't mind lying to protect themselves and will throw people under the bus without a shred of shame or regret. They can't empathize with others, shift blame anytime they mess up which is quite often.
What I think the problem with women being in charge of men is that they are insecure and don't understand men. Normal men in leadership understand that they need to develop a sort of Daddy relationship with the guys under them to create a sense of loyalty, fairness but firm and steady discipline, same rules applying to everyone. Show mercy when it's called for and when the moment is right, reward the guys for doing a job really well.
Women don't get that through their heads and really, they are not psychologically able to understand. They try to manage guys by bitching, fault finding, etc. the way some hard to please wives drive their husband's crazy or brow beat a weak man.
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