I sort of agree. I never had a bachelor party, but been to my share. The guy telling his buddies, "Oh make sure to plan for the wildest strip club around," explicitly to see some smut probably isn't ready for marriage. But the party done right isn't getting the groom drunk and debaucherous, it's "one last go with the boys with no family obligations." Soon taking care of the wife, presumably children in the future will be priority one, so there won't be nearly as much faffing about with the boys. Friends would like to have one last go where they can just be the boys without him putting them further down the priority list. The party is as much for them as the groom. For some crazier bachelor friends that can be "let's go to a club" in a genuine symbolic way. If the groom says, "I don't know, better check with my soon wife," the boys say, "No. You're going to put her first for the rest of your life. But we've been bros since before you met her and been through thick and thin. We know your priorities are changing and are happy for you, but one last time put the boys first." Not a free pass to go too far of course, but in context, "Ok, one last go with the boys where some fun times with them comes before the Mrs," is ok in my book if you're reasoable about it.