>Here's my take (31M): assuming you had not talked about being exclusive at that point, it makes sense that she wanted to explore the connection she was already feeling towards you and let it mature before adding physical intimacy to the relationship. However, this doesn't mean she is against casual sex, she just didn't want to have casual sex with the person she saw herself having a long relationship with. It's not hypocritical, especially since it's about a non-mainstream kink she explored for the first time - imagine it did not live up to her expectations and she never wanted to be reminded of that specific kink, how would that have played out for you? >There is no one-size-fits-all solution to relationships and you have to explore your feelings regarding this issue, but for what it's worth, I don't feel that your girlfriend was hypocritical in this situation. >However, this doesn't mean she is against casual sex, **she just didn't want to have casual sex with the person she saw herself having a long relationship with. It's not hypocritical** Sometimes I wish i could reach through a screen and throttle someone