Men and women are different. Sex is to men what commitment is to women. Men being able to have many high quality sexual partners demonstrates high value in the eyes of other women. More sex means higher value, more experience in dealing with emotion and drama (inherent to all normal women), more stability over all; and a generally happier (if not a little more worried and on her toes) wife.
All this is easy to deduce with simple logic, and is pretty much common knowledge. What's much more interesting is the question of WHY someone would voice this opinion? I have two theories.
1) They all found men that they perceive to be better than them (especially as they age), are growing increasingly insecure, and trying to change that to feel better about themselves. In which case, congratulations. You did very well for yourself and are in a very healthy relationship.
2) They are husbands of, or are, men that are extremely low value. They try to rationalise this by saying that "I/he could have done X, but CHOSE not to; it's not just me being delusional'. In which case, either you need to work on yourself (if you're a man), or re-evaluate your ego.
Seriously, no man is "made" or born that way. We all start off from nothing and work our way to where we are now. The only thing that's keeping you a "loser" is yourself, and that can change. But that's not really important because I can tell from writing that most of you are women. Criticising a man based on the size of his dick is something that women do because they judge themselves based primarily on physical attributes.
My reason for voicing this is because I never knew about it as a young man. It wasn’t that I’d never heard it, but it was “religious extremism”.
Eventually, by the Grace of God, He revealed to me the error of my ways, and how they were outgrowths of the (((communist))) propaganda I grew up with. So I renounced all that, repented, and set about finding a wife who refused to either have premarital sex with me or anyone else during our engagement.
I had two false starts, and third time’s the charm.
Now I’m happily married with a mess of beautiful White children. Thanks to God !
Thanks for your response, l'm glad that it all worked out for you in the end. That aside lets get back to the argument at hand.
By your own admission, you've had two "false starts", I'm going to assume failed relationships or marriages.
What made those relationships fail? Was there anything that you may have learnt that helped you with "third times the charm?" Did anything you learnt before help you in identifying what you did and didn't want in a wife?
Also, this part is curious:
finding a wife who refused
Mate, you didn't make the call for no sex, she did. Women control the sex in relationships. You control the commitment / attention.
By your own admission, you've had two "false starts", I'm going to assume failed relationships or marriages.
The first “false start” was a relationship that lasted two weeks. I refused to have sex with her, because we weren’t married. She didn’t think I actually meant it, and that she could “wear me down”, and she was pissed because no-one who claimed to “want” her could possibly have resisted. In the end, she broke it off, and I think she ended up telling her church family that I’m gay. Needless to say, I wasn’t impressed.
My second attempt lasted six months, and was much worse. Like the first girl, she never really believed that I could possibly be serious about remaining celibate until marriage. She put on a really good show, but one day she calls to “invite” me to a movie date with one of her ex-boyfriends. I was pretty pissed, but in retrospect I dodged a bullet. Glad I never gave in to temptation.
The woman who became my wife actually respected the fact of my chosen celibacy-until-marriage, and while we both struggled with temptation, we were serious enough about our relationship with Christ that we made it to the wedding night. The engagement was about ten months. Our wedding was fantastic, and everyone there knew it really meant something. To this day, people bring it up as “how they want their wedding to be”, and we didn’t even spend that much. We had a couple hundred people.
Once we’d made it, together, we immediately realized there was something truly magical about what we’d accomplished.
And exceedingly few people know what we’re talking about.
Keep in mind, neither of us were virgins at the time, but we were sincerely repentant. To this day, though our marriage has been great, we both wonder what it would have been like if we were both virgins. We’d have probably taken over the world or something.
Nevertheless, it’s obviously blessed, and it’s entirely because we both sincerely chose to honor the Lord, rather than our own base desires. And Christ gave us both because of it.
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