I see that you're new to Poal: here are two handy links that can help you to understand, and then assimilate to our culture: https://poal.co/welcome https://poal.co/userguide >>At Poal, we believe the down vote is not a "I disagree button". >>We'd rather engage in a counter argument with the post/comment we disagree with, and use down votes for spam (you can report to admins) and off topic trolls. So it seems that you had this half correct; you used your words which is good, but be careful with your itchy downvote finger; this isn't reddit. In regards to your comment, I didn't *once* say *psychology* or *psychologist* I said "counselor". Maybe that's a licensed counselor, maybe it's a life coach, maybe it's a shaman or mentor. Every single European tribal civilizations had "wise men" and "sages". Now we call them different words. No man is an island, and everyone needs an outside perspective now and then. Also, maybe read the entirety of a comment before you judge; here: >>A large fraction of counselors are full of shit, but not all of them. Find someone who caters to men, who isn't a soyboy. Welcome to Poal, bro. Edit: I really like your name.