Fear of loss is made worse knowing that you're on your own making decisions about risk. Every system that we should be able to depend on for knowledge and advice is corrupted and turned against us, or at best aimed solely at risk reduction. It takes a lot of fortitude to overcome the dissonance and say no, I accept that risk of loss for the reward is well worth it.
Lately I have been programming my mind that it need not be stereotypical "heart-break" but instead it can be your heart "broken open." Yes it is a loss, but sometimes cutting your losses is to great benefit. Doesn't mean I swing into the emotional aspects of it from time to time and flip out, just trying my best.
Thats all you can do, bud. It's the age old heart vs head dichotomy. Growing is learning how to control the heart with the head.
Loss of hope is the worst imho Even if everything in your life is totally fucked , if you still have hope you can carry on. Without hope , it's a lot more difficult
I lost something once. My eyeglasses. I looked everywhere for them, but couldn't find them. It didn't help that everything was blurry. You'll never guess where I finally found them. They were on my brother's forehead. The little scamp stole them as a joke. I took them back and beat the snot out of him. What you lose on the swings, you make up on the roundabouts.
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