>Generally, it is the result of "hypervigilance." >If they are causing you a problem, focusing on recognizing and appreciating moments when there are no threats; a minor meditation that you repeat when it is obvious. Use "The Blowjob Standard" Every once in a while, ask yourself, "Is this time and place the kind of place where I could safely and privately enjoy getting a blowjob?" If it is, take a moment and just visualize getting that blowjob. Train yourself to take a break from hypervigilance.