To be quite blunt with you, I don't particularly care about those details, and they aren't even relevant in the big picture. You yourself stated she was lazy - thus she is useless as a wife and as a partner in general. Someone who is lazy and entitled works against the partnership and therefore is dead weight at absolute best, and only serves to fuck you over hard in the long run at worst. So yes, I will make "personal judgements" about you and your wife, because you're behaving like a weak minded fool who tolerates lazy and entitled behaviour from the one person who is supposed to have your back, but instead doesn't. Wishy washy acceptance of people behaving like fuckwits just serves to allow them to behave like a fuckwit to you again. Laziness and entitlement is a major character flaw and is something that colours the entire relationship, thus a dealbreaker. That being said though, as I said in my last comment, I can somewhat understand why someone would refuse to divorce their lazy wife, if it meant said divorce process resulted in their lazy wife receiving a lot of the hard worked gains of the husband. Just remember though, that your wife can always choose to divorce you and still get those gains anyway.