bullshit, men instinctively look for approval from the alpha males in their group. Approval from women is important too, but we know that our standing is based on the men around us. Women do largely the same thing with their respective hierarchies. Our problems stem from our instincts being evolved to work in small groups of nomadic tribes but our current situation of living in giant enclaves of strangers. Luckily our brains are flexible enough to have adapted pretty well for most.