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When we look at the OT or even the NT, the concept of marriage looks much more like a formalized LTR, and not an actual marriage. Sure, the marriage results in a merger of two families, but the complexities of the process were virtually non existent. In today's world, there is a concept that because the legal framework makes marriage complicated, that the process needs to be drawn out for an insane amount of money, and carnage before having sex because "reasons". To me, this is an interesting concept, because marriages were never this fancy before. And if someone who is non Christian makes rules against your own ideals, can one really say those rules are really applicable anymore? If i say this is my wife, and marry her before a priest or pastor, why does the pastor than denounce the wedding because the state is not involved? makes no sense to me

When we look at the OT or even the NT, the concept of marriage looks much more like a formalized LTR, and not an actual marriage. Sure, the marriage results in a merger of two families, but the complexities of the process were virtually non existent. In today's world, there is a concept that because the legal framework makes marriage complicated, that the process needs to be drawn out for an insane amount of money, and carnage before having sex because "reasons". To me, this is an interesting concept, because marriages were never this fancy before. And if someone who is non Christian makes rules against your own ideals, can one really say those rules are really applicable anymore? If i say this is my wife, and marry her before a priest or pastor, why does the pastor than denounce the wedding because the state is not involved? makes no sense to me

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Marriage is, itself, a simple process, per Biblical standards. It’s merely a contract and exchange between the father/family of the bride and the groom.

Divorce didn’t really exist - death was the penalty for infidelity.

Plural marriages were “allowed,” in the sense of not resulting in legal penalty, but had universally negative consequences for the families of those engaging in them, and were thus “accursed.”

By the time of the New Testament, the expectation for holy living, as laid out by the Apostle Paul, included being the husband of one wife. Women, however, were always called upon to submit to their husbands.

Edit: To clarify on the legal angle, the marriage itself need only be recognized by the church of the couple. Until the 20th century, there was no “state issued certificate.” It was part of the stripping away powers of the church to create the state as God.