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Not really a problem per se, but they're much older than I am, in their 70s or so. I'm only in my 30s. So our hobbies are completely different. I wouldn't mind if it was once a week or so, but at this point its quickly turning into 6-7 times a week. And its not a small one or two hour things, its a 5-6 hours thing, where my entire dinner is ruined. I've started putting my foot down on time, because its getting a little on the ridiculous side. I don't mind hanging out with people, but I also dont appreciate eating pizza every day and watching 3 hour long movies every single time. However, I am relatively introverted, so what kind of ways can i let them down more slowly?

Not really a problem per se, but they're much older than I am, in their 70s or so. I'm only in my 30s. So our hobbies are completely different. I wouldn't mind if it was once a week or so, but at this point its quickly turning into 6-7 times a week. And its not a small one or two hour things, its a 5-6 hours thing, where my entire dinner is ruined. I've started putting my foot down on time, because its getting a little on the ridiculous side. I don't mind hanging out with people, but I also dont appreciate eating pizza every day and watching 3 hour long movies every single time. However, I am relatively introverted, so what kind of ways can i let them down more slowly?

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Make other plans.

[–] [deleted] • 1 pt

It sounds like they are afraid of what it will be like when one of them dies and they have to be alone. Maybe they are trying to stock up on time spent with you now so you spend time with them when their spouse dies. Tell them that as long as you love yourself, being alone is not that bad.

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One of the most important things you can do in life is learn the power you may wield, simply by using the word "no."

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This is a pretty feeble thing to do... You're really going on an internet forum and asking other men how to be more assertive?

You aren't a bad Christian because you want some time to yourself and to not be constantly around people that don't stimulate you. You need to respect yourself more, my man. Your time is valuable and you need to present that to people. You aren't a dick for not wanting to spend more time with people than what you feel they deserve.