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My mom used to beat me over being left handed, threatened me with a gun and knives, would use isolation as a punishment. My brother turned into an alcoholic over it. How do you forgive this person, when so much hurt has been cause, so many lives destroyed?

My mom used to beat me over being left handed, threatened me with a gun and knives, would use isolation as a punishment. My brother turned into an alcoholic over it. How do you forgive this person, when so much hurt has been cause, so many lives destroyed?

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Hopefully some others will chime in.

The whole thing is, what exactly is forgiveness?

It's mainly for your own peace of mind.

Continue to treat them with love and respect and you will keep your own conscience clear.

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My old pastor used to say forgiving is about forgiving yourself, and not the others. I know my mom will never change, so all i can do at this point is keep my distance, treat them nicely, and realize that their abuse made me into the person i am today.

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That's right, that's a healthy attitude and will serve you well.

Doesn't mean all the anger and bad memories won't still be there, I'm dealing with something similar.

Don't dwell on the negatives, try to switch gears when the negative thoughts begin to crowd your brain.