Any Brothers In Here Who Were On the Road To Divorce And God Saved Your Marriage?

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Happened to me, many years ago, I was emotionally, mentally, and sometimes physically abusive.

She finally had enough (couldn't blame her, I treated her like a pet or worse, like a second hand person or worse).

We began as high school sweethearts and had been married a few years and with kids.

I became a Christian and luckily I was given a second chance, not long after that she did (became a Christian) as well.

The 'separation' was healed (we had moved apart).

Still had some rough times but we've been able to overcome them all.

Hope things work out for you.

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I'd like to first say, glory to God for your salvation and becoming a new creation in Him! Hallelujah!! Keep praying to be more like Christ and reading the Word of God. There is joy even in sorrow.

I, personally, can sympathize with your situation, as I have been going through almost exactly the same thing with my wife for almost 2 years now. I gave my life to Jesus about 4 years ago, just after my father passed away. Jesus has delivered me from porn, weed, alcohol, cigarettes, video games and many more addictive vices. I stopped hanging out with friends that influenced me in negative ways. I also stopped listening to secular music and watching TV. There was a very visible change in my life, for the better, praise the Lord. 2 Corinthians 5:17 "Therefore if any man is in Christ, he is a new creature; the old things passed away; behold, new things have come."

As I was growing closer to God, it seemed like my wife was getting further away. She rarely wanted to sit down and discuss situations, as well as, becoming very contentious on the smaller matters. We had been going to marriage counseling for about 3 years and I sought out some Christian counseling after a few secular ones didn't pan out. She attended one session, then quit. It was really disheartening, as I was hoping for our relationship to grow stronger. After numerous threats that I "change" or she would leave me, she walked out on me in May 2019 and took our two girls with her. The days after she left (took all "her" things on a friday when I was at work), she told me she didn't love me anymore and was seeking a divorce. I thank the Lord for His peace and love during this time. I don't know how I would have coped with it without Him. I told her I will always love her, because that was my vow to her, and will do just about anything to reconcile. This was to no effect and she said it would never happen. I realised that some things that I had done weren't right and asked for her forgiveness, as I am not a perfect man. This had no effect as well. 1 John 4:16 "And we have come to know and have believed the love which God has for us. God is love, and the one who abides in love abides in God, and God abides in him."

Last April, I received divorce papers. I refuse to cooperate with the lawyer as I am not willing to divorce. I trust and believe that God will restore our relationship and family. I continually pray for her and show love in any way I can. Up until now, there has been little to no progress in reconciliation. I still firmly have faith that the good Lord is allowing this to happen for reasons I do not yet know. One thing is for certain; my love for Jesus and all things concerning Him has grown exponetially. I have been encouraged by my brothers and sisters in Christ by staying the course. Other worldly friends and family have markedly different opinions (not surprising LOL). Luke 18:29-30 "And Jesus said to them, Truly I say to you, there is no one who has left house or wife or brothers or parents or children, for the sake of the kingdom of God, who shall not receive many times as much at this time and in the age to come, eternal life."

If there is one thing I can assure you of, it is that God loves you as one of His children and wants nothing but the best for you. Stay faithful to Him and hold fast to the many promises of His Word. 1 John 5:4 "For whatever is born of God overcomes the world; and this is the victory that has overcome the world -- our faith."

If you have any questions for me or need an encouraging word, please don't hesitate to ask. I'll be praying for you and your situation. May His mercy and grace be with you wherever you go brother. Agape!

I'd like to first say, glory to God for your salvation and becoming a new creation in Him! Hallelujah!! Keep praying to be more like Christ and reading the Word of God. There is joy even in sorrow. I, personally, can sympathize with your situation, as I have been going through almost exactly the same thing with my wife for almost 2 years now. I gave my life to Jesus about 4 years ago, just after my father passed away. Jesus has delivered me from porn, weed, alcohol, cigarettes, video games and many more addictive vices. I stopped hanging out with friends that influenced me in negative ways. I also stopped listening to secular music and watching TV. There was a very visible change in my life, for the better, praise the Lord. 2 Corinthians 5:17 "Therefore if any man is in Christ, he is a new creature; the old things passed away; behold, new things have come." As I was growing closer to God, it seemed like my wife was getting further away. She rarely wanted to sit down and discuss situations, as well as, becoming very contentious on the smaller matters. We had been going to marriage counseling for about 3 years and I sought out some Christian counseling after a few secular ones didn't pan out. She attended one session, then quit. It was really disheartening, as I was hoping for our relationship to grow stronger. After numerous threats that I "change" or she would leave me, she walked out on me in May 2019 and took our two girls with her. The days after she left (took all "her" things on a friday when I was at work), she told me she didn't love me anymore and was seeking a divorce. I thank the Lord for His peace and love during this time. I don't know how I would have coped with it without Him. I told her I will always love her, because that was my vow to her, and will do just about anything to reconcile. This was to no effect and she said it would never happen. I realised that some things that I had done weren't right and asked for her forgiveness, as I am not a perfect man. This had no effect as well. 1 John 4:16 "And we have come to know and have believed the love which God has for us. God is love, and the one who abides in love abides in God, and God abides in him." Last April, I received divorce papers. I refuse to cooperate with the lawyer as I am not willing to divorce. I trust and believe that God will restore our relationship and family. I continually pray for her and show love in any way I can. Up until now, there has been little to no progress in reconciliation. I still firmly have faith that the good Lord is allowing this to happen for reasons I do not yet know. One thing is for certain; my love for Jesus and all things concerning Him has grown exponetially. I have been encouraged by my brothers and sisters in Christ by staying the course. Other worldly friends and family have markedly different opinions (not surprising LOL). Luke 18:29-30 "And Jesus said to them, Truly I say to you, there is no one who has left house or wife or brothers or parents or children, for the sake of the kingdom of God, who shall not receive many times as much at this time and in the age to come, eternal life." If there is one thing I can assure you of, it is that God loves you as one of His children and wants nothing but the best for you. Stay faithful to Him and hold fast to the many promises of His Word. 1 John 5:4 "For whatever is born of God overcomes the world; and this is the victory that has overcome the world -- our faith." If you have any questions for me or need an encouraging word, please don't hesitate to ask. I'll be praying for you and your situation. May His mercy and grace be with you wherever you go brother. Agape!