All I can suggest is do your research. There are still good schools out there, they are just hard to find. There is one near me (where my son goes for some high school classes) and I know (because my best friend runs the school board) that it would not tolerate this shit at all, but I also keep in contact with his teacher religiously... constantly, and look at all his work. There's just no way I'd put up with this kind of shit. Kids have enough problems lately because of the fauxdemic. You seem like you have the right idea. God bless friend and good luck.