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Your 16 year old son finds himself a "girlfriend", do you go out of your way to make sure that they're always supervised, never alone, etc. Or do you let it slip that you're going to be going on an overnight outing with his mother, and the house will be free for the night. He can have friends over as long as they're responsible and clean up after themselves.

On the one hand, sex is a very risky activity, and teenagers can be very untrustworthy, and frankly stupid. But if he gets the experience over with while still at school, it won't be such a big deal later, and the more sexual partners he has, the more comfortable he will be in his dating life later. He won't mary the first girl that lets him see her naked, and can think objectively about a partner, rather than just with his dick.

If he doesn't have that opportunity early, he may turn out to be an "incel", virgin, weird, etc. Socially inept or highly anxious around women... I think we all know what happens to young men that, despite trying never get laid.

On the other hand, knocking up a girl at 16 is pretty much life over, and no girl who can sneak out without their parents kicking up a huge stink is marriage material. I mean, I wouldn't let my daughter go spend a night at her boyfriend's place.

Also, if it gets too serious, it can interfere with his education. I've seen first hand how my school mate absolutely flunked his last year because he was spending too much time with (and worrying about) his girlfriend who dumped him soon after graduation. Got a job doing data entry, lives with a disabled single mother, they live on her welfare and child support payments, it's not pretty.

Your 16 year old son finds himself a "girlfriend", do you go out of your way to make sure that they're always supervised, never alone, etc. Or do you let it slip that you're going to be going on an overnight outing with his mother, and the house will be free for the night. He can have friends over as long as they're responsible and clean up after themselves. On the one hand, sex is a very risky activity, and teenagers can be very untrustworthy, and frankly stupid. But if he gets the experience over with while still at school, it won't be such a big deal later, and the more sexual partners he has, the more comfortable he will be in his dating life later. He won't mary the first girl that lets him see her naked, and can think objectively about a partner, rather than just with his dick. If he doesn't have that opportunity early, he may turn out to be an "incel", virgin, weird, etc. Socially inept or highly anxious around women... I think we all know what happens to young men that, despite trying never get laid. On the other hand, knocking up a girl at 16 is pretty much life over, and no girl who can sneak out without their parents kicking up a huge stink is marriage material. I mean, I wouldn't let my daughter go spend a night at her boyfriend's place. Also, if it gets too serious, it can interfere with his education. I've seen first hand how my school mate absolutely flunked his last year because he was spending too much time with (and worrying about) his girlfriend who dumped him soon after graduation. Got a job doing data entry, lives with a disabled single mother, they live on her welfare and child support payments, it's not pretty.

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If he doesn't have that opportunity early, he may turn out to be an "incel", virgin, weird, etc. Socially inept or highly anxious around women... I think we all know what happens to young men that, despite trying never get laid.

I think you have it backwards. People who lack social skills tend to stay virgins rather than virgins becoming weirdos. If your son gets weird about women you have to have a talk with him about what's going on with his perception.

I also don't think it's sensible to give men a pass for sleeping around, but make sure women are chaste. You can't really have both and monogamy works better than promiscuity.

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I'm not so sure. Even if he has good social skills, if the logistics can't work out, it's not going to happen.

Some of the most famous pick-up artists in the world struggled with women their entire lives, and it ended up consuming them to the point that they ended up dedicating their lives to it.

It's not an uncommon theme just limited to women though. If you've wanted something your entire life, and never gotten it, you can go to the ends of the earth to get it. And when you do, you tend to take it to excess.

Would you agree or disagree that social skills are exclusive from sex? IE, if a man can talk and be jovial with other men, and non-attractive women, that he social skills are not the problem?

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I suppose you are right that he could get obsessive, though I don't think that could ultimately be blamed on the lack of sex. If that was the case, an orgasm from masturbating could do just the same.

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I disagree.

In this case, sex is less about the pleasure or orgasm, and more about the confidence, satisfaction, etc. The state of mind where you know that you could do it any time you wanted.

It's like playing a video game (back in the day, before online games were a thing), and getting very, very good to the point that you beat your mates without trying. You don't have to join in and play every time they do, and you don't have to win every time. Infact, it should get boring, and you'll turn your attention to other, more important things.

Same for boys/men and relationships. Once you get to the point where you're so confident in yourself that you don't need to chase pussy (it comes to you), you can turn your attention and efforts to other, more important things, such as growing your business, career, or caring for your family.