I guess you have to judge each relationship individually.
For example, I haven't spoken to my mother (dubbed fightclub) for about 10 years. It's the best our relationship has ever been. I recognise and acknowledge that she is an awful person who influences people around her to be worse.
In my mind, removing that influence from my life, recognizing the negative impacts it's perviously had and working to overcome them has made me better than if I tried to 'improve' my relationship with her.
Now think of it from the point of view of a potential partner. Do you want someone who will allow damaging people to act unchecked around them (and their/your children)? Would you rather someone who identifies issues and takes action to reduce the harms caused?
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