Me: divorced forty something practicing Orthofox earning good money in a bullshit field Her: divorced late thirties practicing catholic but okay with Orthodoxy. Earning good money in legit field. Together for four years. We have talked marriage but both "slow movers" cause of poor marriage choices in our youths. All good until recently. She has never been very political and of the view of "is all bs." Recently she has become very anti ICE. Her: "These are people just trying to make better lives." Me: "I don't give a fuck. I have to pay for private school for my son because public sucks thanks to watering down for immigrants, look at the DHS 'worst of worst list..." (etc and so forth and obbious reasons) We argue over that a lot. I'm tired of the argument. We are great other than that. She recognizes other races and "cultures" are less than whites, but seems to be bleeding heart on this hill that we need to be kind to "immigrsnts looking for better" and accommodate. She's missing the fucking point. She's great other than that... but am I beating my head against a wall?