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Me: divorced forty something practicing Orthofox earning good money in a bullshit field

Her: divorced late thirties practicing catholic but okay with Orthodoxy. Earning good money in legit field.

Together for four years. We have talked marriage but both "slow movers" cause of poor marriage choices in our youths.

All good until recently. She has never been very political and of the view of "is all bs." Recently she has become very anti ICE.

Her: "These are people just trying to make better lives."

Me: "I don't give a fuck. I have to pay for private school for my son because public sucks thanks to watering down for immigrants, look at the DHS 'worst of worst list..." (etc and so forth and obbious reasons)

We argue over that a lot. I'm tired of the argument.

We are great other than that.

She recognizes other races and "cultures" are less than whites, but seems to be bleeding heart on this hill that we need to be kind to "immigrsnts looking for better" and accommodate.

She's missing the fucking point.

She's great other than that... but am I beating my head against a wall?

Me: divorced forty something practicing Orthofox earning good money in a bullshit field Her: divorced late thirties practicing catholic but okay with Orthodoxy. Earning good money in legit field. Together for four years. We have talked marriage but both "slow movers" cause of poor marriage choices in our youths. All good until recently. She has never been very political and of the view of "is all bs." Recently she has become very anti ICE. Her: "These are people just trying to make better lives." Me: "I don't give a fuck. I have to pay for private school for my son because public sucks thanks to watering down for immigrants, look at the DHS 'worst of worst list..." (etc and so forth and obbious reasons) We argue over that a lot. I'm tired of the argument. We are great other than that. She recognizes other races and "cultures" are less than whites, but seems to be bleeding heart on this hill that we need to be kind to "immigrsnts looking for better" and accommodate. She's missing the fucking point. She's great other than that... but am I beating my head against a wall?
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This is complicated but we are not Reddit. They would be demanding to speak to your GF so they can tell her to leave you ASAP and how best to fuck you over in the process.

If this is how she is acting now, at this age. There is probably not a huge amount of room for her to consider those ideas and change over time. I would not accept someone that acts like that.

However, talking is important. The bleeding heart is probably mostly from the media she is using and from the people she is around. She probably has friends, family or some stupid social media group/websites pushing this on her 24/7 (or all of those). Women make decisions so they are accepted (it makes them feel good), not because they are good decisions (for the most part).

I don't know what to suggest but I would simply default to logic (which she may ignore, as you have suggested). Illegals hate us and want us dead. They want to take everything from us and replace us while turning our country into the shithole they came from.

You can have compassion and empathy but talking like "trying to make better lives" is suicidal. They don't want better lives. They want to kill you and take over the life you have. They don't think the way you do, they don't believe the things you do. You are NOT the same and you need to learn that.

If she can't get that through her head she is probably a lost cause that will eventually turn into a blue haired freak and attack you in your sleep with a chefs knife because you offended "her people" somehow.

My wife is not originally from the USA and we have been together for a long time. She became a citizen before we married (we were together at that time). She loves this country and hates these people that are trying to kill it. This is our country. Not just my country. OUR country.

She would probably have far more harsh words for you than what I wrote though. You will have to decide if this is something that you can work out or if it's just not worth it and move on.

Sometimes reason can win but you have to look for the cause for why she is thinking this way and try to understand it to see why it has such a influence. If it has too strong of a hold you will never be able to bring her back to reason.

I wish you the best of luck and I hope this helps.