Ignore them when fussy, be there when actually needed, consistently. Once they're older, lead by example and point out bad ones whenever you can. Don't rush or show worry with bumps and bruises, just address it and get them back to having fun. Don't allow whining, explain crying and worrying don't fix anything, and we're supposed to fix our problems. You don't always get what you want, period, that's life, so don't be a bitch when YOU don't get what you want. And you don't have to be an asshole to your kids about it either, they don't need to fear you to be well behaved and well mannered, they really don't. I don't yell, scream, or lose my temper. My kids are fantastic. The best behaved kids any place we go, and it's not forced. When other kids are being little shits, they distance themselves on their own. They dont tattle, but if i ask why they're not with a friend they'll tell the truth, friend is doing something they shouldn't. There's still some concern they could be corrupted, but right now I'm pretty confident in the foundations we've built and think my kids will help improve the world in their small ways. More White children, leading by example. Smart kids. They notice, too, certain patterns. I'm not overt with them, honest about facts, but I don't draw conclusions for them, and havent uttered an actual racist thing. And they're figuring it out for themselves, just watching the animals at the clown show, watching how animals act, seeing its essentially the opposite of everything they know to be right, and not doing that. It's very cool to see, I'm crazy proud of their intelligence, wit, and wisdom at their ages.