the wealthy teach their kids repeatedly from a very young age and on, that "we do not air our dirty laundry in public. when in public one is to act as a lady or a gentleman, and not air our personal grievances for the world to see. As that would bring shame upon our house." and that mantra is repeated all of their life until the time comes when they are the one repeating it. It has been my experience that the houses that live by that sort of code are the houses that have the most heinous things to hide