what type of job do you have? Also, you can talk to her about it and she might get bashful but joke about it with you with some real talk. If her desire to slap customers and she loaths the job, she probably has that default accent to just get her through the day and get tips. What job do you think she'd be better suited to? She's not a man and doesnt appear to have a career lined up, so she doesnt have anything to aspire to other than be a better waitress to the cretinous public for a job she probably doesnt like. You would probably like her less if she went to college or tradeschool to earn lots of money with a skilled trade because then she would be denying her nature all together. Being fake at a waitressing job is nearly expected out of women I imagine. Trying to have genuine character for each table who treats you like shit is going to either get her fired or destroy her soul because its much harder to maintain a good face when one is being genuine to a bunch of people who really dont give a fuck about her but want refills. Most people would not let family or friends treat them like a slave like the customers at work might. I bet lots of jews use that restaurant and make a huge fuss for free things when a waitress fucks up, serve enough jews you probably die inside for self preservation.