What would you do if an old friend doesnt respond anymore

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Hah. Yeah, had something similar. Old friend drove halfway across the country with nearly no cash to his name, wanted to stay and asked if he could live with me, very pushy. So we took a walk or two and I found out he was at least 10-15k in debt, no job or training, and a previous history (that I knew about) of terrible spending / saving habits, etc.

I'm like, no dude, you cannot just show up and insist that you live with me? See it from my perspective, where you do not have things in order financially, and you drove out from a place where you DID have a place with family, could've easily gotten a job lined up, and worked your way to at least some modest savings (considering low rent with family).

I explained it pretty calmly, just tried to lay out what I saw as "the obvious." He wasn't going through some sort of life-crisis or anything, he completely put all the stress on himself to randomly move and relocate without any prior planning or thinking. I'm not gonna have that dumped on my doorstep, let alone my place for an indefinite amount of time.

Well, same as you, he blocked me a week or two after those conversations. And, same as you, one of my oldest friends! Good riddance I guess? I didn't really expect that kind of reaction at first, but in hindsight with the overall immaturity of his behavior, it's not surprising.

I suppose he saw it as "c'mon man we've known eachother for so long!" And my angle was more like "Yeah, so you should know this is pretty shoddy to try and lump on me here. I can help you navigate the area / jobs and stuff, but truly you can't imagine I'd lay down the welcome mat showing up like this, with no money, financial burden, and no plan at all"

Some people seemingly live that "main character" lifestyle too hard. This is the kinda guy who if you asked him what he wanted to be when he gets older, he'd only talk about being a rockstar and wanted fame above all else really despite doing nothing to truly pursue that. That mentality was there even up until he blocked me, the "I deserve this fancy car I can't afford, because I need that rockstar vibe!" kinda thing. Insanity

Hah. Yeah, had something similar. Old friend drove halfway across the country with nearly no cash to his name, wanted to stay and asked if he could live with me, very pushy. So we took a walk or two and I found out he was at least 10-15k in debt, no job or training, and a previous history (that I knew about) of terrible spending / saving habits, etc. I'm like, no dude, you cannot just show up and insist that you live with me? See it from my perspective, where you do not have things in order financially, and you drove out from a place where you DID have a place with family, could've easily gotten a job lined up, and worked your way to at least some modest savings (considering low rent with family). I explained it pretty calmly, just tried to lay out what I saw as "the obvious." He wasn't going through some sort of life-crisis or anything, he completely put all the stress on himself to randomly move and relocate without any prior planning or thinking. I'm not gonna have that dumped on my doorstep, let alone my place for an indefinite amount of time. Well, same as you, he blocked me a week or two after those conversations. And, same as you, one of my oldest friends! Good riddance I guess? I didn't really expect that kind of reaction at first, but in hindsight with the overall immaturity of his behavior, it's not surprising. I suppose he saw it as "c'mon man we've known eachother for so long!" And my angle was more like "Yeah, so you should know this is pretty shoddy to try and lump on me here. I can help you navigate the area / jobs and stuff, but truly you can't imagine I'd lay down the welcome mat showing up like this, with no money, financial burden, and no plan at all" Some people seemingly live that "main character" lifestyle too hard. This is the kinda guy who if you asked him what he wanted to be when he gets older, he'd only talk about being a rockstar and wanted fame above all else really despite doing nothing to truly pursue that. That mentality was there even up until he blocked me, the "I deserve this fancy car I can't afford, because I need that rockstar vibe!" kinda thing. Insanity

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