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My new wife has just told me that she wants a big chest and neck tattoo for her birthday. Look , I don't mind a few tats (she has a few big ones that are non visible when clothed), but to me, a neck tat is getto as fuck and says " I'm bitch who can't do anything but be a crack whore". I make a good living in a very professional environment, where I am the boss. There is no fucking way I am taking a neck and chest tatted woman to a company function where a deep into the 6 figure salary based upon perception is on the line. Advice?

My new wife has just told me that she wants a big chest and neck tattoo for her birthday.

Look , I don't mind a few tats (she has a few big ones that are non visible when clothed), but to me, a neck tat is getto as fuck and says " I'm bitch who can't do anything but be a crack whore". I make a good living in a very professional environment, where I am the boss. There is no fucking way I am taking a neck and chest tatted woman to a company function where a deep into the 6 figure salary based upon perception is on the line.

Advice?

Suck it up, no one thinks neck tattos are ugly but you
Deal with it, even if it means you won't be having sex becuase you aren't turned on anymore
Divorce her now
Hire a spouse for company functions.
Fuck you

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[–] • 1 pt (edited )

Her current tats are 15+ years old and tasteful. We have been together for 4 years, I thought what's there is what's there, and I can overlook a youthful choice.

I wasn't planning on her adding to it.

The funny thing is we have a friend who drunkenly got an exceptionally small face tat , and we both think he now looks like a drug dealer who is on work release.

[–] • 11 pts

Tell her "no". Part of marriage is veto power on your spouse's fashion choices because marriage is a lifelong partnership.

If you wanted to change the company uniform to dressing as furries, your business partner could veto that.

If you wanted to rebrand your company with a giant dildo sculpture in the parking lot, your partner could veto that.

If you wanted to gain 100 lbs because you think sumo is sexy, your marital partner could veto that.

If she wants tattoos, you can veto that because you're married and NOBODY gets to make unilateral decisions after you get married.

"But that's controlling!"

Ask her if you can take your shared assets and move to Borneo to live in the jungle because gosh darnit you think Borneo is cool. No? Isn't that...controlling? I hope you now understand the principle that neither of us gets to make life-altering unilateral decisions anymore. Because we're a team.

[–] • 1 pt

My wife and I regularly tell each other "NO." Each of us may not realize how something might affect the other, so we have no problem telling each other "no fucking way babe. lol" and we go on with our lives. P.S. weight gain is a deal breaker for both of us.

[–] • 1 pt

I still remember the time my spouse looked at the guest bedroom I'd just painted crimson and informed me we'd be repainting it because "it looks like a whorehouse". Good veto right there!