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My new wife has just told me that she wants a big chest and neck tattoo for her birthday. Look , I don't mind a few tats (she has a few big ones that are non visible when clothed), but to me, a neck tat is getto as fuck and says " I'm bitch who can't do anything but be a crack whore". I make a good living in a very professional environment, where I am the boss. There is no fucking way I am taking a neck and chest tatted woman to a company function where a deep into the 6 figure salary based upon perception is on the line. Advice?

My new wife has just told me that she wants a big chest and neck tattoo for her birthday.

Look , I don't mind a few tats (she has a few big ones that are non visible when clothed), but to me, a neck tat is getto as fuck and says " I'm bitch who can't do anything but be a crack whore". I make a good living in a very professional environment, where I am the boss. There is no fucking way I am taking a neck and chest tatted woman to a company function where a deep into the 6 figure salary based upon perception is on the line.

Advice?

Suck it up, no one thinks neck tattos are ugly but you
Deal with it, even if it means you won't be having sex becuase you aren't turned on anymore
Divorce her now
Hire a spouse for company functions.
Fuck you

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[–] • 12 pts

My only applicable option from your choices is to say, “Fuck you.”

Sack up and tell your wife that she isn’t getting a(nother) tattoo. It’s your own fault for being with a woman mentally ill enough to have one in the first place.

[–] • 1 pt (edited )

Her current tats are 15+ years old and tasteful. We have been together for 4 years, I thought what's there is what's there, and I can overlook a youthful choice.

I wasn't planning on her adding to it.

The funny thing is we have a friend who drunkenly got an exceptionally small face tat , and we both think he now looks like a drug dealer who is on work release.

[–] • 11 pts

Tell her "no". Part of marriage is veto power on your spouse's fashion choices because marriage is a lifelong partnership.

If you wanted to change the company uniform to dressing as furries, your business partner could veto that.

If you wanted to rebrand your company with a giant dildo sculpture in the parking lot, your partner could veto that.

If you wanted to gain 100 lbs because you think sumo is sexy, your marital partner could veto that.

If she wants tattoos, you can veto that because you're married and NOBODY gets to make unilateral decisions after you get married.

"But that's controlling!"

Ask her if you can take your shared assets and move to Borneo to live in the jungle because gosh darnit you think Borneo is cool. No? Isn't that...controlling? I hope you now understand the principle that neither of us gets to make life-altering unilateral decisions anymore. Because we're a team.

[–] • 1 pt

My wife and I regularly tell each other "NO." Each of us may not realize how something might affect the other, so we have no problem telling each other "no fucking way babe. lol" and we go on with our lives. P.S. weight gain is a deal breaker for both of us.

[–] • 8 pts

Can't believe all these people with stupid advice that nothing can be done.

Tell her nicely that you don't like the idea, even if you agreed previously, tell her you've been thinking about it and now when you visualize it your mind has changed. Tell her she looks good and you think it will ruin her image.

If she still decides that your opinion doesn't matter and she will go and get it. Forbid her from getting it, plain and simple. Don't threaten her, no "if you get it I will leave or I will that", it's weak. "You won't be getting that tattoo", "because I said so and you will listen to what I say because you are my woman" - no "if you want to be my woman", no threats, no ultimatums. You are telling her how things are going to be, end of story, 2 minute discussion and it's over.

It's not easy, I know especially if you love her. You want to let her do all the stupid little things that fall on her mind because they make her happy.

"Who are you to think you can order me what to do? I will leave you (wah, wah, cry, cry)."

"Ok, sweety, just let me know when you head out so I can lock the door after you."

If she leaves, you dodged a bullet, but will in the end feel better for dealing with the situation like a man.

If she throws tantrums and cries and still stays, things will be sour for a while, keep cold and don't try to apologize or do anything to fix the situation. You willl see how quickly she will start acting nice just to get on your good side.

If she ignores you and gets the tattoo anyway, kick her out and forget about her.

[–] • 1 pt

Men need to lead, not to ask for permission.

[–] • 7 pts

You should probably just tell her the truth, just as you stated here. Failure to be honest here will only lead to resentment later. A neck tat is a big deal man.

[–] • 5 pts

You can't turn a pickle back into a cucumber

[–] • 4 pts

You fucked up by marrying a woman who already has tattoos and now wants more of them. Tattoos are warning signs and red flags that a woman is easily manipulated by the jews and their degeneracy. Did you not learn anything here on Poal? Maybe you need to dig into what else she's doing when you're not around because she probably has other degenerate traits you haven't seen yet. The warning signs were there. You did not heed the signs.

[–] • 3 pts

There's a reason they're called tramp stamps..

[–] • 2 pts

two of your options means the same thing, nigger.

[–] • 2 pts

Well pick one.

[–] • 2 pts

Preempt her by getting a face tattoo first. She will see how ridiculous you look and no longer want to get a tattoo.

And you can still go to work with the face tattoo, you just have to start wearing makeup to cover it up.

[–] • 2 pts (edited )

I'll also see about getting a job at 7/11 or Starbucks, and see if I can find a trailer park somewhere we can move to. Who the fuck needs a house on a cliff anyway? Hashtag Neck and face tattoo life.

[–] • 2 pts

You're so fucked. Good luck with that.

[–] • 2 pts

You’re fucked no matter what you do prepare for the shitstorm that is now your life

[–] • 1 pt

Yep, agree.

Yes - I'm not happy and I will find someone else No - she is not happy and will find someone else.

[–] • 1 pt

I don't believe that. I think you can tell her no and still keep her. If she actually leaves because putting ugly scribbles on her neck is that important then she's a retard.

Just tell her it's a firm no because of what you told us. Then tell her you get that it's a sacrifice on her part and you appreciate it and/or will pay her back for the indignity in some other way... but the answer is still a hard no and you need her to make the sacrifice for you.

[–] • 1 pt

I like your response. Thank you.

[–] • 2 pts

Explain to her that you'll have to look at that hideous tattoo every day and you would never be attracted to her again.

If she complains ( because she has the maturity of a teenage girl), ask her what she would think about you growing put your hair and wearing makeup. No sane woman would put up with that and its not even permanent.

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