There is a lot of truth to this. Someone who comes to you and asks for advice has almost certainly already considered their situation and is processing it. Whether or not they make the right choices it at least was likely done with some measure of thought on their own. All you are really doing when offering advice is assisting someone in processing their own thoughts. They're solidly into the thought process just by asking for advice.
Someone who doesn't ask for advice may have given careful thought to things already, but may not have, you don't know they haven't discussed it with you.
I watched a "professional" unload precast concrete assemblies from a crane truck. He took the chain hooks to the sides of the top boards of a palette the concrete shape was on. He went to lift and I interjected and asked "are you sure you can do that? I'm not sure that will hold the weight." He looked at me like I was crazy, not having signed the delivery papers, it was still on him so I stepped back extra. I watched the guy lift it just enough to get it a couple feet over before it snapped and rolled off the side of his flatbed into dirt. Honestly I was suprised it even lifted. I told him I guess you can't do that. Lucky it wasn't damaged. I helped him with the rest.
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