Very sorry to hear about your father's death.
I would like to be able to give you a quick answer, but the things in life that really matter don't have easy solutions. Personally, I pray when dealing with grief.
If the relationship with your father had fallen off awhile ago, why the grief? Is it because you regret not spending more time with your dad? Maybe you can focus your energy on spending time with those you care about. If you take this tragedy and make a positive change because of it, you'll be honoring your father's memory. I didn't know the man, of course, but I imagine he would be happier to see you change for the better over his passing, rther than self-destructing. Do it for him.
I hope you can get past the grief. Take care
> If the relationship with your father had fallen off awhile ago, why the grief?
The whole situation is rather intricate. He was my best friend once upon a time, but that was after becoming an adult. As a child I could never do anything to make him proud of me. I was a straight a student and was still told I could do better.
Eventually I pissed off my stepmother. I was excommunicated from the family. It became a life sentence. Dad had to visit with me in secret for years.
My stepmother had my dad's brothers tell my sister and I not to come to the funeral or we'd be escorted out. I sent message to the whole family that we would be there and I would be armed. If anyone got in our way or attempted to speak to us then more than one family member would be buried that day.
Fuck, I miss him and now there's no chance at fixing shit.
Fuck, I miss him and now there's no chance at fixing shit.
You can fix things by taking this as an opportunity to remember what's important. If you fall apart of your fathers passing, that won't mend things. I say you honor your fathers life and not to succumb to grief. I wouldn't show up to your fathers funeral armed. I'm all for 2A, but I consider it unwise to bring a weapon into such an emotionally intense situation.
For whatever it's worth, I'm praying for you. I hope you can find peace.
Personally, I pray when dealing with grief.
How does it work? Why would God give us that much pain and grief/sorrow to deal with?
Did God "give" it to us?
My understanding is God created life in perfect harmony. There is a specific way he designed us to live and be. if we go outside that design, we suffer pain. Is this God "striking us" with punishment? Or is it us not following the design and thus sewing disharmony for ourselves to reap later?
If you mistreat the engine of your car, not following the design by it's manufacturer, you will run into issues. Is this the manufacturer punishing you for disobedience?
> My understanding is God created life in perfect harmony
I believe the same. Something I'm coming to believe though is that we are much further in Revelation than I originally thought. Much further.
I'm honestly beginning to believe that Christ already had his thousands year reign, it was perfect harmony, and that we are at the end of Satans little season which began about 1774. The dead were already resurrected and we are the rest spoken of only once in the whole Bible as far as I'm aware of. Making it an abnormality. I also believe the Antichrist is alive at this moment. The Antichrist will be Nimrod, the original Antichrist. They found his body in 2003. If they immediately cloned it you'd be looking at someone 18-20 today. I could go into further detail but I'd need to dig into my notes. Thank you for giving me a brief respite from what's been on my mind.
Pain is the greatest tutor. But it is not given by God, only our circumstances/actions can bring it about.. and He is the light that can bring us out of the darkness, cast by the enemy.
"Jesus wept." - John 11:35 Once you understand why, you'll know why things are the way they are.
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