I think my sister still has our mother's ashes in an urn on her mantle. I'm glad she didn't give them to me. I would have flushed them years ago. She was a vile, evil, and profane woman. She terrorized me until I was 14 YO, when I realized that I was bigger than her.
I hardly spoke to my mother for over a decade. Then when she needed me, she decided to listen for the first time. It was the most rewarding even of my life to finally repair our relationship. I'm sorry you didn't get the chance.
Mine suggested my daughter find a nice jewish boy. Nope never allowed near us again!
My mother didn't think that she did anything wrong. She would ask my sisters why I never came to see her.
Seems like she should have asked you. Same backward communication was rampant in my family. Also popular with guys asking other guys for advice on women. : )
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