Plant the urns in a cemetery and give them a headstone. Then you and the rest of the family will have somewhere somewhat private to go to visit them when you feel the need. My family is in a cemetery and it always meant something to go there and know where my great grandparents, grandparents, parents and an aunt (cremated) are laid to rest. I'm not getting cremated but I know I will be there beside the rest of them when it is my time, and I find that comforting. Urn burials are cheap and in many cemeteries you can bury 6-8 urns in a single plot.

*Respecting beloved dead*

*QR Codes*

These are incompatible in my mind.

My mom wants to be made into jewelry. She also wants the movie jaws to be played at her funeral. I want to be taxidermied

I've kept my daughters ashes 10+ years now, can't bring myself to scatter them so they just sit in my moms old jewelry box..the qr code sounds like a good idea to memorialize someone

If the person was catholic put the ashes in a colombarium. No way would I keep ashes of a dead person. No way.

Yes, but only because we are waiting for my father to be called home. Then we will scatter both of my parents. Neither wanted to be buried as we see the bodies as just vessels, so neither wanted to waste resources on burial.

I think my sister still has our mother's ashes in an urn on her mantle. I'm glad she didn't give them to me. I would have flushed them years ago. She was a vile, evil, and profane woman. She terrorized me until I was 14 YO, when I realized that I was bigger than her.

3 things.

We don't do cremation in my family, so far, though my sister might, IDGAF

The best burial in my opinion is in the dirt, with no vault, have a coffin or a shroud but in the dirt but no massive concrete forever box unless it's a proper tomb, frankly I'd like a wooden coffin like they had in the old west.

A friend of mine is starting a copycat company, where you ship him your ashes of the deceased, a person or a pet, and they use a kiln and heat and compress the ashes with a bit of infill material and turn them into stones, I'm looking for a cheap laser engraver they can use to inscribe onto the stones without a deft hand or artisan, the idea I gave him after I heard about this was that cairns are unmistakable to our cultural identity, if you see a neat pile of stones stacked in just the right way you know it's a burial or memorial site for the dead, I'm sure other cultures have done it but if you are in euroepe you know that is the only thing it should mean, it's a core ancestral thing to us I believe, it resonates with us so if you are going to keep a relative's ashes keeping them as a cairn at your mantle place, hearth or in your back garden perhaps seems logical, if your grandparents die and you have both ashes I've heard of some people mixing them into a larger urn but if they are stones you could just make a larger cairn; ironically his family own a vault company.