First off, “if he is posting here I doubt”…. So, you made an assumption, then started doling out life advice based on that very flimsy, snap assumption. Also, you were answering a question he didn’t ask. He didn’t ask if he should try to save his marriage, now did he? He asked about wearing the ring. And the one thing *you* consider to be irreconcilable? Who are *you* to be the arbiter of such things in the first place? As for me, I’m going by the Bible. Adultery is grounds for divorce according to God. I happen to put more stock in his opinion of the matter than I do in yours. You can forgive someone and still not be married to them anymore, by the way. As is the case for many victims of marital infidelity. Lastly, the OP has stated elsewhere in the comments that his wife has chosen to leave. So guilt-tripping him for something that he didn’t even choose is not only illogical, it’s unethical.