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In my a late 20s and I'm in a rut. I have a steady job but it pays average. I have poor communication skills and my dating life is non existent as a result despite keeping myself in good shape via the gym.

I often mentally check out of this life, all the hope, vigour and aspirations from my teens has evaporated and I'm indifferent about the present and the future.

I thought my life would have clicked into place by now but I've hit a brick wall. Hoping the next decade can see some changes.

In my a late 20s and I'm in a rut. I have a steady job but it pays average. I have poor communication skills and my dating life is non existent as a result despite keeping myself in good shape via the gym. I often mentally check out of this life, all the hope, vigour and aspirations from my teens has evaporated and I'm indifferent about the present and the future. I thought my life would have clicked into place by now but I've hit a brick wall. Hoping the next decade can see some changes.

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Lets see... 20's were fun for me, lots of possibility and excitement. I ranged from being homeless in Montana in the winter to making north of $50k/year as a Gov contractor (about $100k now), then pissing that away to change careers... lived in 6 different states from coast to coast. Met my wife, got married... Easily my best decade.

30's was less fun, but more stable. Gone were the days of wondering if I'd have enough money to make it through the month or eat well. I bought and sold a couple houses while moving around more, started getting to travel overseas and experience better things in life. Sorted out the remaining mistakes of my 20's (legal issues) and basically got to live what most would have called the "American Dream" with 2 kids, nice homes, stable employment, vacations, etc...

40's was more of the 30's, stability... but the loss of excitement really started being noticed. That was the beginning of the loss of desire to continue on with passions that previously defined my life path. 40's really just kinda vanished into nothingness, very little remarkable happened.

50's and I exist in a grey world. There's no real point to my existence now, work is pointless, kids are gone, wife is in menopause, bored of my toys, tired of traveling... even food is bland (lost my sense of smell in my 40's, well before convid). Have the means to do pretty much anything I want, and I mostly just want to sit on my ass and read junk books.

How I feel is so contrary to how I was raised. "Anything you can dream and believe, you can achieve" but I just can't give a fuck anymore.

So, yeah... you might have this to look forward to... remembering your 20's as the GOOD decade. Well, at least interesting. The stability in later decades was good, it's always nice to know your station in life is set and it would take something Major to disrupt it.

Oh, my teens sucks. I fucking hated life in my teens, being homeless (at 20, when I finally gave up on my parents dream of college and they cut me off) was better than anything in my teen years.