I know the rut you are in as that is exactly how I felt before hitting 30 few years back.

I think this is a natural human phenomenon and only those who are meant to grow and keep developing experience it.

To put it simply - you outgrew your current life situation and now is time for an upgrade.

Are you experienced enough in your field to consider starting a business of your own? Maybe take up a management course and aim for a leadership position? Maybe look for another filed or industry where your skills could be applied?

You need to do some self-reflection and see where your intuition will guide you, spend some time in nature, alone, so you can hear what it has to say.

With women, you need to put yourself out there, they won't come to you. Just keep in mind if you get a woman in a bar, you will end up with a woman that goes to bars.

Will life get better? Create a 10 year long term plan, struggle and work towards it, adapt and adjust as you go - life will get better 100%.

Give in and life will get worse. To live is to struggle.

'Keep doing what you've always done and you'll keep being what you've always been.'

Take these with a grain of salt, but I have some recommendations.

First, and I’m serious, are you a believer in Jesus Christ? If not, much of what I’ll tell you won’t mean a lot, but I have found that my sense of fulfillment and achievement in life was greatly amplified by my relationship with Him, and even more when I was obedient to His teachings.

If so, find yourself a small church that focuses on exegetical teaching, preferably from the original Greek. Assess the women in the church. Are they dressed modestly? Are they respectful? These are good signs. Get to know the pastor and elders of the church. Take notes. Study the doctrines they provide. Most of these will at least understand a portion of the jewish problem, as they usually align with the mindset of the early Church, which was actively persecuted by the jews.

Pray, often. Start with penitence, and seek forgiveness for your sins; this will restore your connection to God. Pray for illumination of your thoughts as provided by the Bible and aided by the doctrines from a strong pastor’s teaching ministry. Read the Word for yourself, and acquire a systematic theology with which to learn what it all means.

I suggest, whether a believer or not, that you study economics and history. These will grow your mind and your grasp on the world. Look into the writings of John Locke, Carl Menger, Frederic Bastiat, and Henry Hazlitt. Do a critical reading of Mein Kampf, as well. If you are a Christian, examine the shape they take in light of biblical understanding. It’s amazing how national identity, race separation, and even the mechanisms of classical “free market” thinking and Lockean theory of inalienable rights spring directly from rightly divided scripture.

Regardless of your faith, continue your health and fitness pursuits. Eschew drugs and alcohol, they poison the body and weaken the mind. Avoid pornography, and even the titillation offered by most media. Use the time and money saved, and the energy acquired from your healthy habits to develop new routines to acquire mechanical and technical skills. I don’t mean “coding,” unless it’s in service to mechanical efforts, but instead electrical engineering, soldering, circuit design. Skills such as these will prove beneficial, regardless of whatever happens. If you require stimulation from the arts, listen to classical music, and read classical literature. And occasionally take a moment to be creative, whether writing, art, or music you create yourself.

Make a friend. Even if it’s just one. A true friend, one who “is closer than a brother.” Challenge each other, physically, mentally, and spiritually. Encourage each other. Forge a bond of fraternal love built on shared values and purpose.

Women will follow. They always do. Once a man isn’t “interested,” he becomes appealing. Be interesting, instead. At that point, be patient and selective. You only get one shot at finding the right one. I mean this. Make sure she’s chaste, modest, hard working, devoted to your values, and, if you’re a believer, shares your doctrinal positions. Don’t compromise. Ever.

These are my observations as a man years beyond you, looking back over my many victories and many losses. I hope they help you.

Late 20s to early 30s is when it got good. That's when we started having children.

Yes. My 20s were pretty up and down, crazy songwriter life. Lots of good times lots of bad, trying to figure out the world. Takes a bit to realize you're in your 30s, but I'm loving 35.

Lets see... 20's were fun for me, lots of possibility and excitement. I ranged from being homeless in Montana in the winter to making north of $50k/year as a Gov contractor (about $100k now), then pissing that away to change careers... lived in 6 different states from coast to coast. Met my wife, got married... Easily my best decade.

30's was less fun, but more stable. Gone were the days of wondering if I'd have enough money to make it through the month or eat well. I bought and sold a couple houses while moving around more, started getting to travel overseas and experience better things in life. Sorted out the remaining mistakes of my 20's (legal issues) and basically got to live what most would have called the "American Dream" with 2 kids, nice homes, stable employment, vacations, etc...

40's was more of the 30's, stability... but the loss of excitement really started being noticed. That was the beginning of the loss of desire to continue on with passions that previously defined my life path. 40's really just kinda vanished into nothingness, very little remarkable happened.

50's and I exist in a grey world. There's no real point to my existence now, work is pointless, kids are gone, wife is in menopause, bored of my toys, tired of traveling... even food is bland (lost my sense of smell in my 40's, well before convid). Have the means to do pretty much anything I want, and I mostly just want to sit on my ass and read junk books.

How I feel is so contrary to how I was raised. "Anything you can dream and believe, you can achieve" but I just can't give a fuck anymore.

So, yeah... you might have this to look forward to... remembering your 20's as the GOOD decade. Well, at least interesting. The stability in later decades was good, it's always nice to know your station in life is set and it would take something Major to disrupt it.

Oh, my teens sucks. I fucking hated life in my teens, being homeless (at 20, when I finally gave up on my parents dream of college and they cut me off) was better than anything in my teen years.

Sounds like you're ready for the next step.

You need to put more effort into finding a partner than finding your next job. At a certain age your options become limited. You need to find new ways to socialize, so you can practice your communication skills. Think sports club, social hobby, maybe try inviting people to do fun things.

Life doesn't always click, there is always struggle. Once you learn to forge ahead despite hardship things will pick up for you.

life gets better for you guys?

Your happiness at that age is dependent on having kids. Now you know your goal.

Only if your financially independent. Don't let anyone fool you with the "nobility of the lower classes" or some such drivel. Being poor fucking SUCKS and being rich is only bad if you're an idiot, in which case you'd be even worse off poor. The system the jews have built only benefits the wealthy, which is usually them.