It's a phrase and guy doesn't mean sex. Be a lady, be subtle, coy, low volume, well-mannered, polite etc. Play things.
Good points. I'm not particularly interested sleeping with guys. Nor am I any kind of cheater, and I'm still in a relationship. I used to work around a lot of guys and didn't try sleeping around with them. I really hate physical contact with people who are not my fiance.
I think I phrased my question poorly. If I have to go back to work I'll be back around a bunch of guys. But I was super blue pilled at the time and was acting a fool. I'm trying to think of how one would act like a lady while still doing her best to earn her check. I'd be doing union pipefitter work
I have no fucking idea what "play things" should have been. I was phone posting in my car at my gym at that time so I was being lazy and not checking posts.
The union guys I know are animals. Work hard, play hard type. The main thing with these guys is to earn their respect. Learn what they can teach you, especially the long timers. Pull your weight, and don't be lazy. Give as good you get. After a minute, they will respect you as a coworker.
After that, people's fee fees don't matter, because your "on the team". A direct quote from one of these guy's is, "You are either on the team, or off the team, some people get it, most don't.".
Maybe it's different where you are. But I doubt it.
That sounds about right. For men, it's easier for them to get on the team or off the team. It's decided much sooner. Woman it's harder to prove you're not a slut, you are a team player, and that your a smart and hard worker. I really dont think woman should be in the field so I think that's smart and fair on the guys part.
I've worked hard and partied hard as I went through my apprenticeship. I was still full of propaganda self righteous behavior.
I think my biggest blunder and what ultimately made me not accepted into the fold was that I learned how to be a man, and copied the behavior of men, and I failed to learn how to be a lady. I'm not a tranny nor do I support the movement, I was born female and identify as one, but it must have alien and disturbing to the guys to see me walking and talking like a dude.
I think if I go back to work I will do everything I can to come off as feminine and a gentle spirit, which will be hard to Ballance with not being a pushover and being capable of the pay I earn.
I am unsure how I will handle guys who don't like woman in the field. In the past I was very childish during those engagements. But now I know more. But I'm not sure "you're right but I need the money, and this is the only skill I have that pays" will go over well.
You're a woman? Welcome to land of the red pill where men are men and men think women are men...on posting on poal that is.
That's an amazing job, congrats. Great money but you work your arse off. As far as being a woman working around men- just be you. Maintain your space; don't let any man touch you or speak to you inappropriately (you know what I mean, no inuendo, no over the top filth talk). Guys will definitely test you- you probably already know that though. Be yourself or as they say now "you do you".
That is good advice. Haha yeah, I am female, I've always gravitated twords places that had high testosterone and few woman. I've been online for a long time, and I'm not surprised when people don't believe I'm female. I am social and chatty so I may try for a second to convince them but their judgment of me is based on their personal experience so I don't get offended. I laugh when some men say I sound like a man because yeah, 95% of my life has been spent trying to get away from woman while talking, working and getting my education from manly men.
I've had to revaluate who I am so I can be myself in good taste. But I think I'm going to go for "gentle soul, soft spoken, modest dialect" which I wasn't doing originally. although dressing modestly and not touching people has always been part of my personality.
Part of the appeal of working in the trade meant I could dress professionally with the same style outfit everyday, not competing with other woman on dressing pretty or wearing makeup. I hate putting on makeup and smiling for clients.
I love smiling and bringing in home made snacks for my team though.
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