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Fellow White People Is my gf cheating on me or just weird?

We've been dating for around a year and a half. She comes from a very very religious background, and from what i can tell, absolutely no one in her family follows the no sex before marriage rule. Heck, not even my gf herself is a virgin, since she had sex already prior. So not entirely too sure why waiting till marriage is so important now. I always thought that was more a teenage rule or something, seems weird to enforce chastity when one isn't chaste ....

We've been dating for around a year and a half. She comes from a very very religious background, and from what i can tell, absolutely no one in her family follows the no sex before marriage rule. Heck, not even my gf herself is a virgin, since she had sex already prior. So not entirely too sure why waiting till marriage is so important now. I always thought that was more a teenage rule or something, seems weird to enforce chastity when one isn't chaste ....

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[–] • 8 pts

If she already slept with someone and now does not want to with you....stop wasting your time on her. Once a hoe always a hoe.

[–] • 6 pts

This. Even if she’s not cheating, behavior like this is good evidence for mental illness. Walk away.

[–] • 1 pt

Even if she’s not cheating, behavior like this is good evidence for mental illness

Buddy, I think you're the one with the mental illness if you think that! LOL

[–] • 6 pts

Unless you have evidence she's cheating, forget about it. If she's cancelling meeting with you, if she's getting dressed up but "not going anywhere" etc. If you love her you trust her. Suspecting her cheating on you and your only evidence is she wants to wait is no evidence bud.

[–] [deleted] • 5 pts (edited )

Chastity is a thing even with non virgins. There has to be other concerning behaviors for someone to conclude she is cheating. She might just be servicing herself, imagination is enough to prevent horning around. She might just be so ready to get married she wants to hurry things along by depriving you of sex. See if you snap or show any red flags.

If she's really doing the chastity thing that would be more of a good weird than a bad but definitely a smidge odd

[–] • 4 pts

Go look up Strong Successful Male on YouTube. Lots of good info there. Long story short though, women make rules for betas and break em for bad boys. Probably cheating

[–] • 3 pts

Any woman who already has you guessing is a waste of your time and energy. Just get out and start over without the baggage. Trust me. If a girl has you wasting time thinking about this, she is a waste of your time.

[–] • 3 pts

Year and a half is a pretty common marry it or lose it time. 2 years married without kids is a common irreparable damage starts happening to the 'marriage' time.

Life isn't a disney remake of a book. Real clocks and imperatives are ticking no matter how much liberal media has brain washed you otherwise.

[–] • 0 pt

I’ve been married for 6 years without kids.

[–] • 1 pt

Good for you Satan

[–] • 0 pt

We’ve got unexplained infertility and have so far spent $20k on fertility treatments, and another $30k coming up in July for IVF. Way to be a dick.

[–] • 2 pts

Read the book "the abc's of finding a good wife". If your religion isn't one that pushes the "wait until marriage" narrative then she's not into you and stringing you along.

[–] • 1 pt

You've been dating a year and a half, what are you waiting for? Either propose marriage or move on. Do you have the same goals in terms of when to have kids and how many you want to try and have? Do you agree on the area you want to live and a plan to be able to afford a 5000 square foot house on 2 acres with 4 kids, 2 dogs, 3 cats, and some chickens?

[–] • 1 pt

That's not enough information to determine that. If you're asking that question with only that as a guide, I'd say you need to see more suspicious things like: is she on her phone too much? Does she allow you to see her phone? Does she go out alone alot? Usually women are not good at hiding cheating. Men who don't see it don't want to see it. It's generally pretty obvious to people who aren't having a relationship with the cheating spouse/girlfriend.

[–] [deleted] • 0 pt

She's not super big on me seeing her phone, and i make zero effort to try anyways. She doesn't really go out a lot, she's more of a homebody

[–] • 1 pt

For me, I simply say what I want, explain my position on it, the same way she did. Say, the ball's in your court. You need to be prepared to act either way. Whatever you do, if you make a threat like I'll walk out if you.... you need to he prepared to do just that. If you don't make good on your threat, your life with her will be on a continuous downward trajectory forever.

Be careful: you need to think clearly about what you want. It's ok to make demands but you need to follow through. Both of you bring something to the table. You need to know what you're bringing. You need to know what she's bringing. Negotiate. If you're not bringing enough, then you need to prepare for that too.

Good luck.

[–] • 1 pt

She probably is cheating on you, and she is weird as well...

[–] • 1 pt

You need to work on your confidence. Be such a man that she would never want to cheat. If you feel like she's getting it from elsewhere with no real evidence then you're the one creating something to justify your inadequacies.

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