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Fellow White People Is my gf cheating on me or just weird?

We've been dating for around a year and a half. She comes from a very very religious background, and from what i can tell, absolutely no one in her family follows the no sex before marriage rule. Heck, not even my gf herself is a virgin, since she had sex already prior. So not entirely too sure why waiting till marriage is so important now. I always thought that was more a teenage rule or something, seems weird to enforce chastity when one isn't chaste ....

We've been dating for around a year and a half. She comes from a very very religious background, and from what i can tell, absolutely no one in her family follows the no sex before marriage rule. Heck, not even my gf herself is a virgin, since she had sex already prior. So not entirely too sure why waiting till marriage is so important now. I always thought that was more a teenage rule or something, seems weird to enforce chastity when one isn't chaste ....

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[–] • 8 pts

If she already slept with someone and now does not want to with you....stop wasting your time on her. Once a hoe always a hoe.

[–] • 6 pts

This. Even if she’s not cheating, behavior like this is good evidence for mental illness. Walk away.

[–] • 1 pt

Even if she’s not cheating, behavior like this is good evidence for mental illness

Buddy, I think you're the one with the mental illness if you think that! LOL

[–] • 6 pts

Unless you have evidence she's cheating, forget about it. If she's cancelling meeting with you, if she's getting dressed up but "not going anywhere" etc. If you love her you trust her. Suspecting her cheating on you and your only evidence is she wants to wait is no evidence bud.

[–] [deleted] • 5 pts (edited )

Chastity is a thing even with non virgins. There has to be other concerning behaviors for someone to conclude she is cheating. She might just be servicing herself, imagination is enough to prevent horning around. She might just be so ready to get married she wants to hurry things along by depriving you of sex. See if you snap or show any red flags.

If she's really doing the chastity thing that would be more of a good weird than a bad but definitely a smidge odd

[–] • 4 pts

Go look up Strong Successful Male on YouTube. Lots of good info there. Long story short though, women make rules for betas and break em for bad boys. Probably cheating

[–] • 3 pts

Any woman who already has you guessing is a waste of your time and energy. Just get out and start over without the baggage. Trust me. If a girl has you wasting time thinking about this, she is a waste of your time.

[–] • 3 pts

Year and a half is a pretty common marry it or lose it time. 2 years married without kids is a common irreparable damage starts happening to the 'marriage' time.

Life isn't a disney remake of a book. Real clocks and imperatives are ticking no matter how much liberal media has brain washed you otherwise.

[–] • 0 pt

I’ve been married for 6 years without kids.

[–] • 1 pt

Good for you Satan

[–] • 0 pt

We’ve got unexplained infertility and have so far spent $20k on fertility treatments, and another $30k coming up in July for IVF. Way to be a dick.

[–] • 2 pts

Read the book "the abc's of finding a good wife". If your religion isn't one that pushes the "wait until marriage" narrative then she's not into you and stringing you along.

[–] • 1 pt

Benefit of the doubt, perhaps she realizes chastity is the better way to conduct herself, via trial and error.

You either found someone straightening out, or a game player. Need more context, I think.

[–] • 1 pt (edited )

She messed up and had pre-marital sex before. But maybe she wants to try and do the right thing now and wait. Nothing wrong with that. Women are fucked up. She could also be holding her pussy from you because she wants you to marry her sooner.

[–] • 1 pt

I wouldn’t jump to the conclusion that she’s cheating just based on that.

There is a thing called repentance. Plenty of people mess up and then “turn the other way” in trying to obey God’s commands.

Your argument assumes that just because she’s had sex before, it necessarily means that she should no longer care about abstaining from sex before marriage.

That’s a stupid ass argument.

How old are you, if I may ask? Because you come across as fairly young.

[–] • 0 pt

Right. He thinks he’s entitled to her body bc she made mistakes in the past. It’s gross.

[–] • 0 pt

Yeah. You put it better than I did, actually. Says more about him than it does about her.

[–] • 0 pt

Having sex once or twice, whatever, I suppose I see your point. But I get the impression OPs girl had more than a couple encounters with more than a handful of men.

She made her decisions, nobody forced her. Women want their cake and eat it too and yet they all judge men as harshly and never forgive. Obviously they have other factors that concern them not body count. But my point is women don't give two shits so why should men.

Plus, she made her mistakes, fuck her she'll die alone or find some beta NPC. But every year there is a new batch of 18 yr old girls on the market and most have not yet been around long enough to make the mistakes... There's no reason to settle for a heavily used second hand product.

[–] • 1 pt

I personally wouldn’t want a used up whore. That’s my choice, your choice, OP’s choice, sure.

So that’s an issue (or not) in of itself. What she’s done in her past is not an issue for OP, he’s made that clear. His problem isn’t that she used to sleep around. He’s upset that she used to and apparently doesn’t anymore. And then he’s using that as possible “evidence” that’s she’s cheating. Which is ludicrous for reasons I already mentioned and don’t need to mention again.

Your comment really has nothing to do with OP’s original post, or with my original comment to his post.

You’re just ranting your opinions about women in general.

[–] • 0 pt

We don't know OPs girl or OP, all we know is the little bit of information posted.

I don't think it's productive to speculate when there are so many unknown factors.

[–] • 1 pt (edited )

I don't understand the question, are you engaged to be married, "going steady" ...or are you just "dating?" If you are just dating, then how can she be "cheating" on you? She could be dating others, there would be no rule against that, unless you have both agreed to it. What is the nature of the communication, trust, and relationship between you and this person? If you think she is lying to you about something, then your relationship is in jeopardy. If you think she is using the prospect of sex as leverage to get you to ask her to marry you, that is another issue. Best wishes to you, be smart and follow your heart but also use your best intuition.

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