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I've searched far and wide

I've searched far and wide

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[–] 6 pts

Until the modern era, most marriages were based on reason, not feelings

You could specifically look for an ukrainian for instance, christian, from a rather poor background, willing to be the mother of your kids, with divorce not being an option, by legal contract between you both, so you can't end up divorce raped while she can't end up dumped like a bitch

I mean you could make it clear from the get go, it's to make a family, descendants. If there isn't much love and feelings in the beginning it can come later on

And you of course on your side you are willing to provide pretty much everything material to raise the kids etc, while she focuses on being a housewife. And by being your wife she can have US citizenship or whatever is your country, and escape her social condition, make a quantum leap forward for her and her family

I know it doesn't sound very romantic, but again romantism is a modern invention. Take monarchies and the medieval era... The vast majority of marriages were arranged and often had little to do with love and feelings. It was often for practical reasons, based on reason rather than love and feelings, those were a bonus

[–] 3 pts

This is basically what I finally realized. After “falling in love” over and over with mental cases, I met a beautiful, intelligent, healthy person that I admired. I wasn’t head over heels. She’s not a dime. But she’s substantial and kind. Made a conscious decision to actively love her and married her up. I can’t stand being away from her and my life and my character are both 80% better. Oh, and she’s funny. Clutch.

[–] 2 pts

with divorce not being an option, by legal contract between you both, so you can't end up divorce raped

No legal contract can prevent divorce rape. Pre-nups are a fantasy. They can't protect your children, and if you have children they can't protect the first million or so of your assets. The divorce rape judge will throw out any or all of your pre-nup to provide for "the children" (your ex and her new boyfriend).

Only if you are a mega millionaire can a pre-nup protect you, and then it can only protect (most of) your assets. No pre-nup can protect your children.

[–] 2 pts

Put everything you own under your mother's name

[–] 2 pts

A proper option though be mindful of the sus and the ability to persuade one you have been working a deal with too pupil a wool over your eyes and corrupting your mind for a Jewish cause

[–] 1 pt

Good info. Thanks.

I would like to import a Lithuanian woman though.

[–] 2 pts

Yeah I took ukrainian as an example but it could be lithuanian, it's still the same overall idea; someone who's in for a marriage of reason, someone with traditional and religious values, who can understand the whole concept, no need to be hypocrite about it, it's to build a family it's not about lust

[–] 1 pt

This used to be applied to being the sex you were born as, a lifelong connection. Now people try to get divorced from their sex.