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I have found now what seems to be a trend that if I tell people I play an instrument - the saxophone - they almost seem like they are downright genuinely offended. I thought this would be a light fun thing to mention but it seems like they get offended and they're whole opinion of you just tanks. I had a previous friend who simply refused to talk if I had anything to say / mention about the saxophone (new songs, busking sessions etc). And now at the end of a second interview who they were ecstatic about me they asked at the end what type of things do you like to do for a hobby and I just mentioned the saxophone. Somehow by the end of just giving the basics it's like their opinion of me couldn't have tanked more. 5 days later at the moment no response. And I've seen this tanking opinion happen many times before, In particular with 'professionals'. My previous boss was somehow so offended he referred to it as "that brass thing you play" and some how escalated to think I play during work time on site (?).

I'm actually to the point where I'm actually worried to let new 'professionals' I meet in the future even know that I play.

I have found now what seems to be a trend that if I tell people I play an instrument - the saxophone - they almost seem like they are downright genuinely offended. I thought this would be a light fun thing to mention but it seems like they get offended and they're whole opinion of you just tanks. I had a previous friend who simply refused to talk if I had anything to say / mention about the saxophone (new songs, busking sessions etc). And now at the end of a second interview who they were ecstatic about me they asked at the end what type of things do you like to do for a hobby and I just mentioned the saxophone. Somehow by the end of just giving the basics it's like their opinion of me couldn't have tanked more. 5 days later at the moment no response. And I've seen this tanking opinion happen many times before, In particular with 'professionals'. My previous boss was somehow so offended he referred to it as "that brass thing you play" and some how escalated to think I play during work time on site (?). I'm actually to the point where I'm actually worried to let new 'professionals' I meet in the future even know that I play.

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I think the actual issue is that 95% of people have no hobbies or interests. Literal NPCs who just spend all their waking hours consuming media and vidya while being praised for agreeing with the group and shunning all things normal and decent.

Every time you mention any interests that aren't related to the hottest show or the recent sportsball match, it makes it obvious you are NOT one of them and you're not to be trusted. I think that's what the effect is you're noticing. It's not related to the instrument at all. They are genuinely anxious and bothered by you and about you, because you're clearly not falling in line, and that's uncomfortable for them.

I genuinely wouldn't tell your coworkers/etc anything about your life at all. Nothing to gain and everything to lose. Talk to your friends, and get away from NPCs as much as possible.