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I have found now what seems to be a trend that if I tell people I play an instrument - the saxophone - they almost seem like they are downright genuinely offended. I thought this would be a light fun thing to mention but it seems like they get offended and they're whole opinion of you just tanks. I had a previous friend who simply refused to talk if I had anything to say / mention about the saxophone (new songs, busking sessions etc). And now at the end of a second interview who they were ecstatic about me they asked at the end what type of things do you like to do for a hobby and I just mentioned the saxophone. Somehow by the end of just giving the basics it's like their opinion of me couldn't have tanked more. 5 days later at the moment no response. And I've seen this tanking opinion happen many times before, In particular with 'professionals'. My previous boss was somehow so offended he referred to it as "that brass thing you play" and some how escalated to think I play during work time on site (?).

I'm actually to the point where I'm actually worried to let new 'professionals' I meet in the future even know that I play.

I have found now what seems to be a trend that if I tell people I play an instrument - the saxophone - they almost seem like they are downright genuinely offended. I thought this would be a light fun thing to mention but it seems like they get offended and they're whole opinion of you just tanks. I had a previous friend who simply refused to talk if I had anything to say / mention about the saxophone (new songs, busking sessions etc). And now at the end of a second interview who they were ecstatic about me they asked at the end what type of things do you like to do for a hobby and I just mentioned the saxophone. Somehow by the end of just giving the basics it's like their opinion of me couldn't have tanked more. 5 days later at the moment no response. And I've seen this tanking opinion happen many times before, In particular with 'professionals'. My previous boss was somehow so offended he referred to it as "that brass thing you play" and some how escalated to think I play during work time on site (?). I'm actually to the point where I'm actually worried to let new 'professionals' I meet in the future even know that I play.

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they are correlating your your musical interests with some sort of masculinity balance. they assume you the time you take out your schedule precludes you from doing more masculine things thus making you a weak liability. are you showing up jacked head to toe? do ya give em the wide eye? you should definitetly give them a loud blast one friday afternoon as a surprise. start blaring some bbng, moon hooch, viagra boys coming and leaving from work and in the break room. maybe start telling people you play the brass mace.