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I have found now what seems to be a trend that if I tell people I play an instrument - the saxophone - they almost seem like they are downright genuinely offended. I thought this would be a light fun thing to mention but it seems like they get offended and they're whole opinion of you just tanks. I had a previous friend who simply refused to talk if I had anything to say / mention about the saxophone (new songs, busking sessions etc). And now at the end of a second interview who they were ecstatic about me they asked at the end what type of things do you like to do for a hobby and I just mentioned the saxophone. Somehow by the end of just giving the basics it's like their opinion of me couldn't have tanked more. 5 days later at the moment no response. And I've seen this tanking opinion happen many times before, In particular with 'professionals'. My previous boss was somehow so offended he referred to it as "that brass thing you play" and some how escalated to think I play during work time on site (?).

I'm actually to the point where I'm actually worried to let new 'professionals' I meet in the future even know that I play.

I have found now what seems to be a trend that if I tell people I play an instrument - the saxophone - they almost seem like they are downright genuinely offended. I thought this would be a light fun thing to mention but it seems like they get offended and they're whole opinion of you just tanks. I had a previous friend who simply refused to talk if I had anything to say / mention about the saxophone (new songs, busking sessions etc). And now at the end of a second interview who they were ecstatic about me they asked at the end what type of things do you like to do for a hobby and I just mentioned the saxophone. Somehow by the end of just giving the basics it's like their opinion of me couldn't have tanked more. 5 days later at the moment no response. And I've seen this tanking opinion happen many times before, In particular with 'professionals'. My previous boss was somehow so offended he referred to it as "that brass thing you play" and some how escalated to think I play during work time on site (?). I'm actually to the point where I'm actually worried to let new 'professionals' I meet in the future even know that I play.

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[–] • 3 pts

Actually you're right. I've already started not telling 'professionals' I renovated a lot of my house. I was getting the same reaction but almost worse.

[–] • 4 pts

Sounds like a bunch of petty narcissists.

The only other thing is maybe you get long winded talking about your hobbies/passions.

You're probably more intelligent than they are and they feel threatened in some way. Kind of like the whole business card scene from American psycho.

[–] • 1 pt

Well I thought just now maybe they could have thought I was retarded but when they were confronted with something that their mind could not deny that I was superior (in their own mind's perspective), they became extremely ego hurt that they are lower than someone they just previously thought was retarded. So since their cognitive dissonance has no other route, they just mind mindbogglingly and bizarrely just cut off all association.